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Breaking Up When Poly

Breaking Up When Poly

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Being broken up with sucks for monogamous people. I’m sorry to say it sucks for polyamory people as well. Now, there can be some benefits to poly in this regard – a partner might break up with me, but I may have other partners to...
Abundance vs Scarcity

Abundance vs Scarcity

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) It’s the idea that love is not in limited supply. That the more love there is, the more we can generate. Therefore, if one of my partners falls in love with someone else, it doesn’t mean that it dries up the supply that is pointed...
Breaking Up When Poly

48 Hour Tool

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Once when dawn came home from a date and she started to tell me about how great it was, she suddenly stopped and asked “Is everything ok?”. I smiled (or perhaps gritted my teeth) and said “Yep, is fine, go on…” and she went on with...
Breaking Up When Poly

Can we go back to mono?

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Once you’ve opened the door and walked into polyamory, can you ever go back? I’ve tried it on occasion but never really with conviction. Only as a reaction to a bad time – “Fine, we will just not see other...
Breaking Up When Poly

Change The Story

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Have you ever had those moments of ‘he didn’t answer my email, maybe he doesn’t like me anymore’ or ‘she’s going out with him again tonight, she must like him more than me’ or a number of...
Polyamory does not require sex

Polyamory does not require sex

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) In some polyamorous relationships, sex isn’t part of the picture at all. I have had three poly relationships that did not include sex. So (lets talk) about relationships that the people involved decide that sex isn’t going to be...