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Polyamory Toolkit

Anchors

Anchors

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Sometimes when I’m feeling emotional, I’ll turn to my ancient teddy bear for comfort. I mean, this poor bear is ancient. There are photographs of me just at the age of walking and holding onto this teddy bear at a Christmas tree....

Managing Surprises

Managing Surprises

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) I once started a relationship and, not wanting my current partner to be worried about it, I told her we are just dating but it wouldn't go anywhere. Fast forward twelve years and we all own a house together…. One of the polyamory...

Breaking Up When Poly

Breaking Up When Poly

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Being broken up with sucks for monogamous people. I’m sorry to say it sucks for polyamory people as well. Now, there can be some benefits to poly in this regard – a partner might break up with me, but I may have other partners to...

Abundance vs Scarcity

Abundance vs Scarcity

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) It’s the idea that love is not in limited supply. That the more love there is, the more we can generate. Therefore, if one of my partners falls in love with someone else, it doesn’t mean that it dries up the supply that is pointed...

48 Hour Tool

48 Hour Tool

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Once when dawn came home from a date and she started to tell me about how great it was, she suddenly stopped and asked “Is everything ok?”. I smiled (or perhaps gritted my teeth) and said “Yep, is fine, go on…” and she went on with...

Can we go back to mono?

Can we go back to mono?

(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit) Once you've opened the door and walked into polyamory, can you ever go back? I've tried it on occasion but never really with conviction. Only as a reaction to a bad time - "Fine, we will just not see other people, and I won't have...

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