(excerpt from The Polyamory Toolkit)
It’s the idea that love is not in limited supply. That the more love there is, the more we can generate. Therefore, if one of my partners falls in love with someone else, it doesn’t mean that it dries up the supply that is pointed my way.
But, at least for me, i was raised with the idea that there are so many good men out there and you need to grab one and do whatever it takes to keep them. And if they turn their eye to someone else, you’ve lost your supply of love. Scarcity. Not enough resources, not enough love, fight for every scrap you can get.
That’s not true when it comes to polyamory relationships though. There is plenty to share. So, I’ve decided to change my thinking from that that was drilled into me. I want to come from a place of abundant love.
The Polyamory Toolkit
A book that focuses on specific tools people can use to address the common issues and deeper aspects of a polyamorous relationship. This work includes topics such as: Jealousy, Compersion – finding joy in your partners’ joy, Communication, Mitigating Triggers, Creating a Solid Foundation, and so much more.